The Seat of the Matter - Erotic Spanking by Tanonymous

BDSM Play and Safety: by Tanonymous SM Basics: The Seat of the Matter - Erotic Spanking

Once you learn how to spank safely, you are well on your way to learning how to spank erotically. It is possible to give your partner an orgasm by spanking him or her slowly and rhythmically. Of course, you may not always want your naughty partner to enjoy the spanking you are giving, but it's always nice to know how to reward as well as punish. In order to deliver the most enjoyable and erotic spanking possible, you need to be able to give a good warm-up. Begin fairly lightly, especially if your partner is new to the idea of being spanked. Try to establish a steady rhythm. The ideal rhythm should be a lot like your preferred sexual one, and should allow your partner to be stimulated by the constant, rhythmical pressure of his or her genitals against your leg as you spank. The tender area at the juncture of the thighs and ass is a good place to spank. In addition to being quite sensitive, it is also an erogenous zone. Don't forget to intersperse your smacks with a lot of rubbing and caressing. A nice spanking also puts your partner in the perfect position for some anal play. A gloved finger or a dildo does nicely for this form of stimulation. Always be sure to use a water-soluble lubricant with a glove or condom - oil-based lubes like Vaseline or Crisco eat microscopic holes through latex in forty seconds flat. If your partner seems tense or inhibited, you might want to raise the level of sexual excitement by rubbing his or her genitals as you spank. If a person is in a state of sexual arousal, he or she can usually take a lot more in the way of erotic pain. My personal preference for delivering an erotic spanking is the bare hand, slightly cupped for maximum effect. While I enjoy an over the knee spanking, another favorite position of mine is to have my partner on all fours on a bed or sofa. This way, I can stand roughly parallel to his waist and really put my shoulder into the spanking.

With a few of my more experienced play partners, the hand alone is never enough. I keep a delightful paddle of burnished oak that is about an inch thick and a foot wide which is definitely not for beginners. I like to use it on very heavy masochists and also for a regular spanking when my arm gets tired. I just lift it up and drop it over the pair of consenting bun cheeks, and the weight of the paddle does all the work. You can easily assemble a good collection of spanking toys without going to any specialty stores. You can pick up quite a few useful things at toy stores, such as ping pong paddles and other "pervertable" sports gear. Most general stores carry rulers and hairbrushes, which make excellent spanking accessories. Wooden spoons can also be fun to spank with, and chances are there may already be a few in your kitchen. The local hardware store is also a great source of things to play with, but mind the splinters and don't use anything thicker than your little finger or heavier than a ping ping paddle until you get a little more experience with toys. Anything made of leather, wood or plastic that has a broad surface is safe to spank with. Beware of using small, thin instruments, because they can concentrate too much force in one area and may break skin. Stick to toys with large surface areas in proportion to their weight. Avoid anything made of metal, and stay away from the parts of the body that are unsafe to spank, such as the kidneys, spine, sacrum, joint areas, and shins. A good general rule to follow for body parts is that if it has a lot of padding, it is probably safe to spank. If you would be hitting on or near bones, tendons, or internal organs without a good layer of fat an muscle i