by DISCERNINGDOM
In theory, I always thought a girl could not submit to two masters. Yes, you can lend your girl to another man. That’s a very dominant thing to do, letting her know that she is your property and therefore disposable at your whim. Or maybe you are an indulgent dom (yes, there are some), and you have a girl who’s prone to naughtiness, and curious about whether two guys are more than twice as good as one. And so you set it up, just as a one-off, no strings attached. Though probably, being a dom after all, you want to impose one or two restrictions. The first time I did this, I wouldn’t let him fuck her. Anything else, but his cock was not to penetrate her cunt. Nor her ass, though he could have her suck him to his heart’s content.
But all this is a very different matter from a girl having an ongoing relationship with two doms, submitting to two masters equally. Because, wouldn’t jealousy inevitably creep in? Wouldn’t she be drawn more to one than the other? Wouldn’t she come to want to spend more time with one, and so less with the other? Wouldn’t she increasingly make her preference felt, and perhaps even without really being aware of it start to favour one more than the other, be more submissive to him, try to please him more?
And men are competitive creatures. Wouldn’t each of them, however hard he tries to keep such feelings in check, want to make the girl prefer him to the other man? And wouldn’t each man, even if ever so subtly, try to let the other know that he was top dog, that she preferred him? Or if he sensed that he was not, wouldn’t he resent it? So isn’t there an inherent instability in such an arrangement? Is the dynamic such that the two doms could not keep their status in balance, the submissive not remain perfectly poised between the two?
Yet maybe it’s possible to imagine circumstances in which it could work despite the obvious dangers. Suppose that the two doms simply aren’t jealous types. Suppose they each enjoy sharing with another guy, enjoy putting their heads together and dreaming up new tests of their girl’s submission, each trying to out-do the other, but in a generous spirit, with ideas to titillate her, to encourage a deeper submission still, and greater pleasure for them all in its expression. Perhaps in the nicest possible way they enjoy ganging up on her, pooling their resources of time and energy and ingenuity to help her towards fulfilment.
And perhaps, and I think this would help a lot, their circumstances differ. Maybe one of them has the girl as a long-established partner, they share a home, a life. And the other dom isn’t looking to muscle in on that, doesn’t want to share her 24/7 but wants her submission within the limits that are offered. That might help too, each dom recognising his own sphere, not looking to expand beyond it.
And what of her? Can she accept to obey each equally? Will there never be conflicts of loyalty, or of disagreements about priorities? Maybe; but with good will perhaps they can be resolved. It’s easier to see, in some ways, what she gets out of it. She’s not limited to the energies and desires of one man; she can receive double the attention, if she’s got the appetite for it. And after all, they are two different men, so she gets variety; each will have his own style of domination.
But perhaps there’s something more fundamental at stake for her. I’ve heard some women say they are aroused and excited by the idea of being made available. It goes to the heart of their submission, that their man offers them to another, not just for casual sex, but offers him her submission. She is his to use as he pleases, and it pleases him to share her. Some women find that stirs them, and even empowers them. They like to be desired by other men, they like to please other men, and they like their man to want other men to use them for their pleasure. If you don’t feel this, it’s probably very hard to explain it. I wouldn’t dream of suggesting this is for everyone. It’s an idea I’ve thought about, that’s all.
But all this is a very different matter from a girl having an ongoing relationship with two doms, submitting to two masters equally. Because, wouldn’t jealousy inevitably creep in? Wouldn’t she be drawn more to one than the other? Wouldn’t she come to want to spend more time with one, and so less with the other? Wouldn’t she increasingly make her preference felt, and perhaps even without really being aware of it start to favour one more than the other, be more submissive to him, try to please him more?
And men are competitive creatures. Wouldn’t each of them, however hard he tries to keep such feelings in check, want to make the girl prefer him to the other man? And wouldn’t each man, even if ever so subtly, try to let the other know that he was top dog, that she preferred him? Or if he sensed that he was not, wouldn’t he resent it? So isn’t there an inherent instability in such an arrangement? Is the dynamic such that the two doms could not keep their status in balance, the submissive not remain perfectly poised between the two?
Yet maybe it’s possible to imagine circumstances in which it could work despite the obvious dangers. Suppose that the two doms simply aren’t jealous types. Suppose they each enjoy sharing with another guy, enjoy putting their heads together and dreaming up new tests of their girl’s submission, each trying to out-do the other, but in a generous spirit, with ideas to titillate her, to encourage a deeper submission still, and greater pleasure for them all in its expression. Perhaps in the nicest possible way they enjoy ganging up on her, pooling their resources of time and energy and ingenuity to help her towards fulfilment.
And perhaps, and I think this would help a lot, their circumstances differ. Maybe one of them has the girl as a long-established partner, they share a home, a life. And the other dom isn’t looking to muscle in on that, doesn’t want to share her 24/7 but wants her submission within the limits that are offered. That might help too, each dom recognising his own sphere, not looking to expand beyond it.
And what of her? Can she accept to obey each equally? Will there never be conflicts of loyalty, or of disagreements about priorities? Maybe; but with good will perhaps they can be resolved. It’s easier to see, in some ways, what she gets out of it. She’s not limited to the energies and desires of one man; she can receive double the attention, if she’s got the appetite for it. And after all, they are two different men, so she gets variety; each will have his own style of domination.
But perhaps there’s something more fundamental at stake for her. I’ve heard some women say they are aroused and excited by the idea of being made available. It goes to the heart of their submission, that their man offers them to another, not just for casual sex, but offers him her submission. She is his to use as he pleases, and it pleases him to share her. Some women find that stirs them, and even empowers them. They like to be desired by other men, they like to please other men, and they like their man to want other men to use them for their pleasure. If you don’t feel this, it’s probably very hard to explain it. I wouldn’t dream of suggesting this is for everyone. It’s an idea I’ve thought about, that’s all.
